GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

 

GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

 NEIL DONALD WALSH once said that to be successful in life, it is the area which begins at the end of your comfort zone. Simply when you stop letting fears and anxiety hold you back will you become more successful in all aspects of your life unfortunately many people have problems with challenging themselves and pushing past the envelope on what they think is safe. A seven step process for getting out of your comfort zone, to find success in life and what is a comfort zone. let's start by defining the term comfort zone and how this concept can hold back many people. A comfort zone is a self-imposed boundary that a person will refuse to push past doing so often fills this person with nervousness and anxiety. For instance let's say you just started a new sales job probably there are certain aspects of this job that you feel comfortable doing like, talking to individual co-workers or clients. On the other hand, the idea of cold calling fills you with anxiety. Basically you feel uncomfortable whenever you have to reach out to a stranger and start the sales process. It's really easy to fall into the trap of never pushing your comfort zone.  Unfortunately this often prevents you from true success and happiness in life so let's talk about the seven step process for getting out of your comfort zone.

  Step Number One

Get information: Anxiety usually comes from a fear of the unknown, usually we imagine the worst case scenario of what could happen when we push past the boundaries of what makes us feel safe, so the first step of breaking through your comfort zone is to first educate yourself. Your goal here is to find out about whatever skill or activity you're pursuing. Talk to people who've done the same thing. Read books on the subject or even watch you tube videos related to the subject. Information is power and the more you know about something, the less scary and more powerful you will be. If you want to become an expert salesperson then your number one goal is to become comfortable with cold calling so you'll talk to top sales people and learn what they did to overcome this obstacle. Then you'll educate yourself about the process and the strategies that other people have used.

 Step Number Two

Have a plan:  After educating yourself create a step-by-step plan for how you'll take action on the lessons you just learned, in this plan create benchmarks and milestones that will help you. Work through this process, these are many goals that put you one step closer to pushing past. Your comfort zone further more identify the key challenges you'll face and what you'll do to overcome them. Once you learn how to master the cold calling process sit down and create a plan for overcoming this limitation perhaps you would start with warm leaves and then work your way up to cold calling prospects that are considered dead leads.

 Step Number Three

Hold yourself accountable: Accountability is another key to breaking through your comfort zone so tell your friends, family or even strangers about your goals or you can even find an accountability partner or form a mastermind group. Accountability is an important step because the people in your life will keep you on track you want them to be there to give you that nudge as you're pushing your boundaries. They'll make it hard for you to quit because you know you'll look foolish if you do exam tell people about your goal to become a master salesperson. Make a public declaration that you're committing to making at least 20 calls a day, do this often enough and your friends and family will start to encourage your journey to success.

 Step Number Four

Take baby steps: Breaking out of your comfort zone starts with the first step, once you have a plan in place focus on the next action that helps you make progress on your goal. Also taking baby steps is a great way to desensitize yourself from the feelings of anxiety. You're not trying to become an overnight success, instead you're steadily pushing the boundaries of your comfort levels and getting experience on the next skill. You're trying to build example. First practice your sales pitch on friends and family, then call the warm leads who are ready to buy. Finally work on those dead leads who even challenge experienced salespeople.

 Step Number Five

Take aggressive action on your comfort zone: To really blast through your comfort zone, try an aggressive challenge this is a rapid fire approach where you force yourself to do a lot of something that makes you scared the idea here is you're shocking the system into becoming comfortable. You won't have time to think about your fear, instead you'll be so busy pushing your boundaries that you forget about what used to make. You scared example, an aggressive challenge for your sales job would be to call 100 plus prospects in the next few days. You don't think during this process, you just do it if a person is rude or hangs up then you immediately move on to dial the next number.

 Step Number Six

Remain positive: There will be times when you experience a negative outcome. Something will shake your confidence and make you feel scared. The trick is to not let this obstacle prevent you from blasting past. Just recognize that you will have negative outcomes. It's a natural part of the process. Don't allow negativity to creep into your mind. Remind yourself that it's going to happen. In fact you should recognize that you're actually being given feedback about. How you can do something better, example with cold calling, there is a large number of rejections. People will hang up they're going to be rude and some might even threaten you. Just think of these rejections as an important part of the sales process. Then tell yourself next is you move on to another sales call

 Step Number Seven

Keep expanding your comfort zone: Never stop expanding your comfort zone, even if you arrive at your stated goal. It's important to keep pushing those boundaries, look for new challenges, find opportunities that your old self would have never considered, like teaching a class on the subject that once filled you with fear.  When you finally get comfortable with cold calling, look for more challenging experiences. Perhaps you'll mentor a younger sales person who is having problems with this area or maybe you identify another key area in your job and focus on mastering that skill. So there you have it a seven step process for getting out of your comfort zone. Breaking out of your comfort zone gives you more opportunity in life as long as you don't let anxiety prevent you from doing what you truly want. So attack your fears and push the boundaries on what makes you feel comfortable.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

HARSH TRUTHS ABOUT MONEY

 

HARSH TRUTHS ABOUT MONEY

Money is damn simple to understand. The problem is that the gurus of the world focus on what doesn’t matter. Money is counter-intuitive. We wanted to believe money had to be complicated and to have any level of wealth was a crime against humanity. That mindset kept us poor. Instead of doing work we enjoyed, we traded our time for money. We stayed back at work until 10 pm so we could look cool for the dictator bosses.

What changed was when our mentor forced us to understand money. Not to get rich, but to be free to do whatever the heck we want. These are the harsh truths about money that you can’t   g o o g l e.

As soon as you see luxury possessions, you’re not talking to a millionaire. You’re talking to the fake rich who want you to notice what they buy so they can feel better about their broken lives. That’s not a rich life. That’s poverty.

Rich people invest their money in assets like stocks and crypto. You can’t see their money because it’s doing the hard work of compounding so they can have zero meetings in their calendar. Their goal isn’t millions of dollars. Their goal is passive income that pays for their living costs. Great investors sit around all day reading. Investors make a lot of money. Those who successfully do it full time, don’t sit around all day looking at charts and what CNBC says is going to happen in the markets today. They couldn’t give a crap about price movements in stocks or crypto for the next twelve months. Great investors are long-term. The book “Richer, Wiser, Happier” showed us that the best investors like Warren Buffett don’t do a lot of meetings. They trade looking at prices and falling for hype in for reading. They read annual reports. They read the financials of the companies they’re interested in. They read a company’s new business strategy. Get rich enough so you can read books for an entire day if you want. The idea is to put effort into your work and be open-minded enough to continually iterate so the work gets easier. As the work gets easier your results compound and you can reinvest the returns into a new area.

Doing the same hard work over and over until retirement is the definition of insanity. Work gets easier when you notice the nuances and experiment with them. Questions lead to experiments. Experiments allow you to iterate. Iterations lead to superior results that make you more money, so you can eventually work less. Success isn’t an end state. Success is having the freedom to pursue the continual grind you most enjoy. The idea of financial freedom is messed up. We’re taught to believe there is an end state and we just work hard until we reach it.

The crucial lesson is to find the grind you love doing. Then do it for the rest of your life no matter how much money it makes you. The grind is actually hard work you’ll look back on and be proud of when you’re at the retirement home on death’s door. The person who is calmer makes more money. Calmness is a financial superpower. So much of our energy is wasted  through anger and anxiety. It destroys our best work. It makes us have crazy people thoughts that write over our creative ideas. Anxiety makes you go inward when the financial opportunities are outwards. Pure motivation doesn’t come out of anxiety. Pure motivation comes from calmness that gives you energy to be creative enough to come up with the ideas that generate value, money.

“Money is numbers and numbers never end. If it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness will never end.”

Singer Bob Marley has an unusual way of explaining happiness with this idea. He’s spot on though. Meet a “possession chaser.” They’re miserable sons of guns. The pile of stuff and the numbers get larger and larger, yet they’re not happy. They continue to set the bar higher with bigger financial goals. There is no way to win the game. Numbers are infinite so the game is infinite. This is another definition of insanity that rots your insides.

Numbers don’t drive us. The main thing that makes us happy now is freedom. The rest is bullshit. Make money while you have the energy. Not when you’re old and crusty and can’t enjoy it. The final harsh truth we’re told is to work hard until retirement. Then we will have free time to spend the money we’ve made and enjoy ourselves. The idea of conventional retirement is screwed. When you retire at 65-years-old, you will have a lot less energy than now. Your body will have aged. Your skin will be old and crusty. You should enjoy life while you have the highest levels of energy, which is right now. That means you need money to serve you now. That means you have to reject the “get into a lot of debt to buy real estate game” — that takes multiple decades — and live within your means.  It means you need to invest money in stocks and crypto that have decent growth and don’t take a lifetime to provide tangible results. Frugal living, side hustles, and better investing strategies allow you to live life before the typical retirement age. Energy levels and money should be thought about in the same sentence.

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST

Here are seven habits for self-love.

Number One

Respect your boundaries: Know your limits when you're tired over worked and unmotivated. Do you have the self-discipline to say no to step away from your work boundaries are difficult to preserve with friends, with work and with your bad habits. You try to set boundaries but it's easy to let yourself slip. Imagine you've been working on a big project, you've poured hours and hours into your work but no matter what you do the final product just never feels good enough. You keep tweaking and analyzing and over thinking your work. you doubt and criticize yourself but at some point you just have to stop, at some point you have to step back and say you know what I have done enough I did the best I could  do but I can't work anymore. This is a boundary that you set for yourself. It's your responsibility to recognize when you're pushing yourself too hard and thinking too much, when you reach your limit. It's also your responsibility to give yourself a break that's what it means to love and care for yourself. You respect your productivity but you also respect your boundaries. You are your own person with your  own work ethic and your own limits.You may not be able to do as much as someone else. They may have larger loftier limits than you do but that   doesn't make your boundaries any less important. By observing your boundaries you learn to respect and understand what you're capable of and that creates a sense of pride in what you've accomplished. Set boundaries in every aspect of your life. Give yourself minimums and maximums and listen to what your mind and your body are telling you and when you feel like enough's enough then forgive yourself and step away.

 Number Two

 Trust your instincts: Your inner self is a powerful force that you ignore far too often. Some people call the inner self, the gut or the voice in your head. Whatever you call it, your inner self is a combination of your instincts, your experiences and your core values. It's a raw representation of who you are and what you want so most of the time your inner self knows exactly what you need to do but there's a catch, your inner self doesn't work unless you put faith in your instincts. Many people struggle with indecision, they procrastinate their choices because they just don't trust themselves to know what's right. You may rely on others to make decisions for you all because you don't trust yourself. This deep distrust may stem from a deficit of self-confidence and trust. Which psychologists call self-efficacy. If you lack self-efficacy, you don't believe in your ability to decide, to perform or succeed. You can do all those things and you can do them well but only if you have faith in yourself. Like everything on this list self-efficacy doesn't happen overnight. It takes a long time to trust yourself. Just like, it takes time to trust another person. So get in the habit of using your instincts. Wear the clothes that jump out at you. Make small snap decisions, empower your inner self and believe in your ability to lead in your life.

 Number Three 

Self-care routines: Do you have a self-care routine, when you hear the phrase self  care. You might think of cleaning grooming and morning rituals but a self-care routine is any combination of habits that help you feel calm, comfortable and happy. In other words it's a ritual that reminds you to enjoy the life. You're living these important rituals. Look different for each and every person for creative types. You might feel happiest when you're inspired and free to create. You may populate your self-care routine with artistic outlets and introspective silence. For people struggling with stress you might rely on your self-care routine to unravel the tension in your everyday life. You may fall back on meditative or relaxing activities to keep your mind at ease. There's a self-care routine for everyone, each routine is unique to your lifestyle,  your preferences and your goals. It may take a bit  of trial and error but over time you'll find  a self-care routine that's personal to you.

Number Four

Find your intention: What is your intention, an intention is different from a goal or a dream. Your intention gives your actions words and decisions, a greater purpose or meaning. It's a guiding light that you'll use throughout your entire life because people who live with intention with purpose and meaning are proud of the life, they lead but what does a purpose or intention look like. Your purpose may be to make the world a better place, you might find meaning by helping other people or creating something from nothing. Whatever your intention is, use that intention to understand the direction. Your life is headed. Are you choosing to fulfill your intention? Did you make the world a better place? Today did you help someone in need or create something new as long as you fulfill your intention. Every day is valuable and well lived so take a few minutes to set your intention, what drives you, where do you find meaning? It's okay if you don't know. For most people, their intentions are vague. At first it takes time, practice and careful reflection to  discover  what gives your life meaning. So don't worry if your intention isn't set in stone. Your purpose may change, dozens of times in your life but as long as you're following your intention, you can love the person and the life you've.

 Number  Five

Need-based decisions: Can you control your impulses, most people are governed by rash emotional thinking, they make their decisions on the spot and they look back on those decisions with frustration and regret but what does your decision-making have to do with self-love. Often times we struggle to love ourselves because our identities are clouded by wants, wishes and uncontrollable impulses. You may feel like. You don't know who you are because your decisions aren't really yours. To practice self-love, prioritize your needs over your wants. You may want to buy a bigger TV. You may crave an expensive vacation but do you need either of those things by framing your decisions in terms of need. You empower yourself to make good choices, choices that you can be proud of. In the future not only is this good for your bank account it's an important source of personal growth when you make need based  decisions. Your sense of self becomes stronger. You get a better understanding of who you are. By carefully analyzing what you need in your life as your sense of self grows your confidence and self-esteem will follow. You'll learn to stay true to yourself in difficult moments when others might crumble and give in it all starts with a few good choices. Suppress your wants, vices and negative patterns. Then look deeper at the things that you need because you may discover a strength you never knew you had.

Number  Six 

Shrink your world: your world is larger than ever before social media exposes your life to millions of friends, fans and critics. Your devices  over whelm you with alerts stories and updates unrelated to you or your environment wherever you go you're bogged down by the weight of the world,  a burden too heavy for any one person to carry that burden creates stress, insecurity and fear. You may compare yourself to people living entirely different lives. You may try to impress people that you'll never ever meet. Your life may be engulfed by this demanding social network. You may spend so much time worrying about the outside world. You may neglect the life you're living when you start neglecting yourself, you forget how to love and appreciate the person that you've become.So before you can love yourself, you have to pay attention to yourself you have to prioritize yourself and listen to yourself. To do that you have to shrink your world you have to make room for yourself in your own life. Right now the outside world is attacking you from every angle so there isn't much space for yourself to practice self-love, take a break from social media. Spend less time worrying about solving the world's  problems and worry about solving your own. Don't change yourself in fear of what people might say. Change yourself because you want to grow learn and improve. In other words remove the weight of the entire world from your shoulders. Take a break from the lives of others and  focus  on the life you're living right now.

Number  Seven 

Risky opportunities: The grass will always be greener if you spend your life waiting for the perfect opportunity. You'll find yourself just standing still because every opportunity has challenges, every chance requires risk and every dream demands a leap of faith. So if you want to love yourself you must believe in your ability to overcome obstacles. You must capitalize on opportunities not because you're certain, you'll find success but because you think you can rise to the occasion. In your life  one  person will hold you back more than any other and that person is you most of the time you're the reason you run away you're the reason, you make excuses and you grow angry with yourself because you know you could be doing better before you can love yourself. You have to become yourself. Don't be afraid to become the person you want to be. Empower yourself to do better practice, taking risks.Seize the next opportunity that comes your way even if it isn't perfect because many opportunities only come once if you don't take advantage of them now you may never have another chance.

MANAGE YOUR DAY

 

MANAGE YOUR DAY 

 

Most people never get to enjoy a perfect day because they never set the intention to have the perfect day. They never create the perfect day. They think it will just somehow happen. Their day's plan is mostly limited to a calendar of appointments with others not with themselves but with others but in order to have your perfect day you have to become way more intentional about the perfect day. 

You have to script it out. You have to schedule it. In your calendar you have to stick to that schedule and execute the plan and you have to plan it the night before scripting and scheduling of your day the night before is crucial in order to have the perfect day. What you need to do first. You need to identify what all would constitute a perfect day for you. List it all what would you work on, what would you do when you're done working, what kind of things would you enjoy, what  kind of things do you really enjoy and you want to spend time. How much time would you spend on your relationships. 

What would you do in that time. Script it all, identify all the things you want to do in your perfect day even down to the meal you want to have or the places you want to go the places. You want to visit during that time in that day. 

your perfect day set the start time set the end time not only for the day but also for all your tasks and set a deadline for your work, very clear boundaries what time will you start and what time will you end. 

You will see a scripted day is the best day you can ever have because a scripted day is the most enjoyable day. It's the most intentional day and the more scripted days you can have which are the perfect days. That's how you live a great life. A lot of people might be thinking my perfect day I would just wake up and have no responsibilities and have nothing to do. I just want freedom but here's the paradox. Structure is what leads to freedom. Structure is essential for freedom. Discipline and freedom are not mutually exclusive but mutually dependent because otherwise you'd sink into chaos. 

Structure leads to freedom that's why structure of anything will make you free within that thing if you structure your time you'll be free within that time to do the thing. So it's important to have structure in order to have freedom for as long as you run away from structure, you can never have freedom. 

This is really important to understand for as long as you run away from structure, you will never have freedom. Your freedom is all yours and structure comes from rules. Rules help because they reduce the temptation. They ease your decision making and they help you conserve your willpower. So adding more structure will help you not only live a greater life but it will help you accomplish your goals faster and live a more enjoyable life. 

One of the most important things you need to do in order to create structure is, you need to turn off work at a certain time every day in order to be able to enjoy your off time completely at the end of the work day. Write down everything in your head and start planning your next day and that's when now you can turn off and relax. 

You see most people fail to execute the perfect day because they can't keep their work boundaries intact. Work never ends, work keeps going on. So most people can't keep solid work boundaries because they don't work in solid focused chunks of time. They split their attention and focus during the time. They work they're all over the place. They're doing work, they're checking emails, they're doing work, they're checking social media, they're doing work, they're checking stats, they're not strict with their deadlines. There is no accountability even if they don't keep their boundaries.While working they're spreading their attention all over the place and that's why they can never have a perfect day. So if you want to have a perfect day it all starts with having the perfect blocks of time for your work. 

Everyone can feel the joy of working in focused chunks of time and accomplishing more in six hours than they used to accomplish in 16 hours and not only that so that they can truly enjoy life. They have clear boundaries between work and play. They have clear boundaries between work and enjoyment and they can enjoy their life.

How many of us know exactly what we should be doing to achieve our goals but for some reason just don't end up doing those things.

We have great ideas but we get stuck in procrastination overwhelm and analysis paralysis which leads to a lot of wasted time every single day. We feel scattered disorganized and all over the place we

lack structure and accountability and have trouble following  through on what we say we are going to do and this pattern repeats itself every day, day in and day out.

 

DISPOSE OF POVERTY

 

 

DISPOSE OF POVERTY

 

"Assuming you need to accomplish something other than what's expected, you need to accomplish something else. Assuming you need to accomplish what you've never accomplished, you need to do what you've never done."

 

You compose the above sentences and glue them in your room and every day when you see these words, I realize that you will recognize that you need to make forfeits and transform you and dispose of neediness.

 

It's actual straightforward; if your life isn't what you need it to be at this moment, you must accomplish something else. you will not move starting with one simple world then onto the next. Accomplishing something other than what's expected means escaping your usual range of familiarity and this is never going to be simple.

 

There are three penances you need to make to get away from destitution.

 

So ,how you will actually want to completely change you.

 

Books!

 

Books!!

 

Books!!!

 

Your life will change the day you began understanding books and I'll clarify how it occurs.

 

At the point when you will begin understanding books, you will begin perusing the accounts of conventional individuals who accomplished phenomenal things.

 

These accounts will energize you and give you trust that you could too beat each obstruction in your manner and accomplish significance with your life. I think this is extremely basic; on the off chance that you realize that certain individuals have a few weaknesses you think you have, yet, proceeded to accomplish significance, you abruptly begin to have confidence in yourself. At the point when you begin to have confidence in yourself, you begin to prepare to stun the world and when you increment the perfect size, you naturally increment what is conceivable with your life.

 

You need to begin accepting that you could become rich, despite the fact that you experienced childhood in a helpless town. You begin accepting that you could turn into a tycoon and this conviction drove you to something vital. you begin searching for how to accomplish what you trust you could accomplish by perusing books composed by individuals who have raked in some serious cash previously.

 

You begin learning the mentality and the activities of these individuals and the more you demonstrated these individuals, the better will be your monetary life.

 

Indeed, it will require 5-8 long years. Another thing you can do as well as perusing books is watching recordings that recount to anecdotes about fruitful individuals. Indeed, books are exhausting yet so is each significant thing. Organic products are exhausting and vegetables are exhausting however assuming you need to be sound you'll eat a greater amount of them. Soft drink drinks are fun, sugar is sweet and quick food varieties are decent yet in the event that you like your wellbeing, you'll flee from them. The TV is fun and web-based media is intriguing however assuming you need to get away from neediness, you'll invest more energy with your books.

 

Bill Gates peruses one book each week. You will discover the way that a normal mogul read one book each week. In the event that a normal tycoon accomplishes something, it is presumably great to copy so you need to conclude that you will peruse one book each week. This is difficult and I'm not requesting that you begin perusing a book each week. In any case, you need to make penances to understand books assuming you need to dispose of neediness.

 

Try not to rationalize I disclosed to you before that sugar is sweet and you concur that hard medications, quick food varieties, and most other destructive things are enjoyable. Another exceptionally sweet thing is pardons and that is the reason the vast majority make it.

 

You can think of 100 reasons why you're the place where you are assuming you need and you can too concoct a solitary motivation behind why you should be somewhere else. The thing that matters is standing out you utilize the incredible machine, God gave you. That machine is your mind. In the event that you program your cerebrum to search for the reasons why you're poor, your reticular enacting framework will be occupied with searching for reasons and you'll begin perceiving how the economy, the public authority, and your folks make you poor. Your mind will rapidly show you how your absence of schooling, your wellbeing challenge, your adolescence or even the country you were conceived are the reasons why you're poor. Assuming notwithstanding, you program your cerebrum to search for why you should be rich, you'll begin seeing that even in a terrible economy, certain individuals are making a huge number of dollars in genuine organizations. You'll begin finding out with regards to individuals who went through comparative hardships like you and wound up fruitful.

 

You'll begin seeing that you have a lot of control over your life than you might suspect and you'll begin taking liabilities.

 

A pardon is the food of the blockheads and our reality is loaded up with a large number of them in light of the fact that a pardon is sweet. It's tied in with pointing a finger.

 

It's simple. Everybody can do it however assuming you need to dispose of destitution, you'll not do it. Try not to concoct a rationalization.

 

Recognize what you need to do to transform you and do it, regardless of how troublesome.

 

Indeed, the vast majority consider inability to be something terrible and that is the reason they surrender. In case you're looking for progress, you ought to comprehend that the street that prompts achievement is called disappointment and disappointment isn't last in light of the fact that a solitary achievement can cause you to fail to remember the torments of ten years' disappointments.

 

Make penances to attempt things.

 

Make penances to escape your usual range of familiarity.

 

Make penances to do things that are hazardous and when you come up short, be brave to stand up and attempt again in light of the fact that it doesn't make any difference how often you fizzle, all you need is a solitary achievement.

 

The main point is penance.

 

Assuming you need to dispose of neediness, you must be adequately focused to do things that are not happy. It's not happy to peruse however you need to do it.

 

It's not happy to make moves that might prompt disappointment yet you need to do it. Disappointment is difficult, yet you need to suffer disappointments and attempt once more. You can't get another outcome by doing the old things and each new thing is awkward. So you must make penances assuming you need to dispose of destitution.

THE MOST EFFECTIVE METHOD TO SET INTENTIONS THAT ENERGIZE YOU

 

THE MOST EFFECTIVE METHOD TO SET INTENTIONS THAT ENERGIZE YOU

 

We've all heard that it is so vital to set expectations, objectives and targets. Incredible objectives energize us. Clear expectations invigorate and pull us forward. Without an obvious expectation, we're receptive and don't find time to do the significant things when we need them done. All things considered, we invest our energy battling arbitrary flames. Without clear goals, anything may occur. Also, typically does.

In a real sense, expectations resemble the guiding wheel on your vehicle. Their entire design is to give you authority over where you're going. In any case, when defining aims or objectives, remember that in the event that you can't quantify it, you can't oversee it.

Presently, it's nice to have aims at more than one level. At the point when we get up into the more applied expectations, for example, "I will add to the prosperity of everyone around me," these become like a statement of purpose.

However at that point, be certain you continue on to choose explicitly how you will approach carrying out your central goal in your everyday existence. Points of interest are fundamental. How — explicitly — will you set your central goal in motion today? What will you really DO about your most elevated expectations?

Set expectations for yourself since this is the place where everything becomes real. Simply say "I will do this and this." It ought to be not all that much and overwhelming. Simply some stuff you're significance to do or accomplish present moment. Make certain to record them on paper. At the point when you show them out, you can obviously investigate your outcomes a while later and actually take a look at yourself.

Toward the finish of today or this time one week from now, did you do what you said you'd do? Communicated that way, obviously we're assembling a sort of inside uprightness check inside ourselves.

At the point when you're initially beginning to fabricate this new goal setting expertise (propensity), it's significant not to heap on something over the top. Indeed, it's not difficult to get all amped up for starting over, however it's fundamental that you start where you are NOW, not where you figure you SHOULD be. There are things that, as a matter of fact, you definitely realize you can do. Set your aims to do those things (in addition to maybe somewhat more) and accomplish them. Then, at that point, when you're happy with doing what you say you'll do, then, at that point you can start to extend your expectation muscles somewhat more.

In any case, as in any new system , start simple. Start with what you can really do. Furthermore, solely after you become familiar with the aim setting cycle should you begin going for genuine development. Tolerance – taking little, estimated steps – is in excess of a temperance here. It's simply the way to continuing to push ahead. (Notice I said tolerance, not delaying.) Endeavor a lot of too early, and the outcome will be one more round of de inspiration and debilitation.

All things being equal, approach this sensibly and step by step: watch out for the level you need to reach one year from now, and let the present exertion take you 1/365th of the way there. Do this, and you'll see genuine, quantifiable advancement just as accomplishments you'll really be glad for. It's all beautiful straightforward stuff, truly. Simply preparing yourself to remain quiet about your promise.

 

I DON T HAVE TIME ,REMOVE IT FROM YOUR LIFE

 

I DON T HAVE TIME ,REMOVE IT FROM YOUR LIFE

“I don’t have time.” It’s a simple phrase you have probably thrown out to your friends, significant other, or kids, particularly if you feel as if the elusiveness of time is slipping through your fingers.

But when you sit back and reflect on the statement, what are you really saying? More importantly, consider who you are saying it to, and what it communicates to them. What you are really saying is that your time is being preoccupied with something else. Something your brain has told you is much more important.

We have to stop being victims of time and instead take ownership. The words you tell yourself matter. And if you are telling yourself (and others around you) that you don’t have time, you may just begin believing it.

Once I conscientiously began removing that phrase “I don’t have time” from my everyday conversation, time seemed to loosen its controlling grip over me. I was no longer the victim , I was the one in power.

It’s not time management you need

As someone who has spent years teaching productivity, I have come to this simple conclusion: time management does not exist. You cannot manage time. It is not an angry three-year-old throwing a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store that you can swiftly march out to the car.

No, you cannot manage time (spoken by someone who personally tried to for years), BUT you can manage your activities. We can manage how we individually choose to spend our time. With all the inequalities of wealth in our world, time is not one of them. Time is equally doled out to each of us and it is up to us to decide how to use it.

To determine how we want to choose our time, allow me to break down the four different ways one can spend their time, as well as the importance of each for your productivity.

1. Resting

Resting may seem like a strange place to start but in reality, it is by far the most important if we desire to achieve the success we crave as human beings. Our society mistakenly believes that if we just follow the “hustle mantra” we will find success, so we are afraid to stop moving.

But our brain requires periods of rest. Healthy adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep per night. Acknowledge it, accept it, and move on. Sleep is non-negotiable. In fact, according to Tom Rath’s book, “Eat, Move, Sleep: Why Small Choices Make a Big Difference,” your quality of work can drop down as much as 30% when you are not getting an adequate amount of sleep.

What do periods of resting look like? Well, we just covered sleep, but it can also include meditation, closing your eyes and taking a break away from the computer, or sitting outside in nature for a few minutes. The key to your resting periods is they should feel renewing and restorative , otherwise, it’s not resting!

2. Doing

We know our day is already filled with doing, but what exactly is it we are doing? And are we using our time the way we really want?

When we use the phrase “I don’t have time” what we’re really doing is lying to ourselves. We are simply choosing to not prioritize whatever it is that truly needs the space. For me, I have started using other phrases that show intention, like, “I don’t want to give this my time right now,” or, “That’s not a priority for me at the moment.”

I like these subtle changes to the words because what they do is remind me that I am in control of my choices. Time doesn’t demand how I spend it. I do.

One important caveat to “doing” that must be discussed is that sometimes we have trouble prioritizing the tasks we want to do for ourselves because we are so busy “doing” for everyone else in our lives (I imagine many of the women reading this are nodding their heads right now). When it comes to doing, please remember that you do not have to do it all, and you do not always have to sacrifice time on your tasks for the sake of others.

3. Distracting

Personally, I think we have the wrong idea around the concept of “quitting.” Quitting is not an end, rather it is the first step in refocusing and redefining your life. When we give ourselves permission to let go of the things that no longer serve us, we gain the opportunity to pursue what is aligned with our purpose.

Many of you reading this may assume I am about to lecture you about removing distractions from your day, but that’s not how I roll. Plot twist: we actually need some distractions in our day!

A lot of people believe if they are not spending their time hustling towards some tangible goal, then they are not doing anything worthwhile. That could not be more false! Play is essential for our brains but we tend to undervalue it because it seems so silly next to our serious life or professional goals. What’s ironic though is that when we increase play, give ourselves time to actually enjoy time, we become more productive. When more frequent play is incorporated into our days we see dramatic increases in creativity, attention, and performance.

For those of you asking, how do we determine between good and bad distractions?” Here’s my answer: it is entirely up to you to decide. And before you go panicking, know that the deciding factor is so incredibly simple. After indulging in the distraction stop and ask yourself, “How do I feel after I finish this?” Is your answer along the lines of, “That lifted my mood and was exactly what I needed,” or is it more so, “I feel worse off than I did before.” There  in lies the answer.

4. Thinking

We have a tendency to bind our feelings of self-worth tightly with our daily achievements. We need to loosen these knots because the problem with this is it doesn’t take into consideration the important time we’ve spent thinking.

Every day we have over 6,200 thoughts, which, roughly calculated, means we have about four new thoughts every single minute! The big question though is what are we thinking about?

We spend an excessive amount of time thinking about the things that don’t require it: the worrying and stress, tweaking and reworking of tasks and projects that don’t even need it. We spend a disproportionate amount of time thinking about the minutiae, the unimportant.

You may have noticed a recurring theme woven throughout this article: it’s not the action that matters, it is the intention behind it. We don’t want to just find ourselves doing and thinking. We want to choose to think and do what’s most important. With that, you may just unpack an extraordinary life for yourself  that you never knew could be.

 

KEEP SOME GOALS

 

KEEP SOME GOALS 

 

Our education system is without doubt faulty and flawed. The time to educate a child is ‘hundred years before he/she is born’ said Bertrand Russell, many decades back. There is no allowance in any curriculum that makes an effort to draw the attention of the students to discover their true strengths and inclination. Hence, we have rote learning in place.

Till the time, a youngster arrives at say standard 10th  or ‘O’ levels, there is no formal evaluation done by either the student or the relevant educational institution to see where the child should head with his unique composition of mind, that gives him/her distinctive skills, traits and abilities.

Once I got out of the childhood fascination to be flying aircrafts , I was unsure, what I would want to take as a profession - medical and engineering were and are still the most popular route taken; another matter only a few make it; so having swung the pendulum between medical sciences to engineering, I arrived at a conclusion, that neither suited me – so, the obvious choice was business education. This is not to claim that a well thought decision was made: being no good in sciences, it was more an accidental deduction, the option was to try the untapped and unknown.

we continued without any meaningful alteration, the inherited system of education.  Where the centrality of objective was to make oneself an employable commodity.

When natural indicators and talent aren’t recognized , that’s where the society at large suffers, and due to non-recognition the blessings are wasted. Since the possessor is oblivious of his distinctive skills, these remain unused and unemployed. At the basic level, efforts must be made firstly by the family and then by the educational institution, to provoke a child to set for himself a goal or objective. The likely tilt in determining the goal would be closest to what the child is capably blessed, to exploit and use.

The process can begin by requiring each youngster to write down their wish list (not all of them will ever be goals) of what they wish to achieve and make of their life? Some will have set goals of Himalayan heights, whilst many would be lost in the mundane quest of which job will give them the quickest success – here, at that age, success is largely about dollars and cents, make of car, house, etc.

Once this is done, a parent/ teacher (manager) must sit down to examine the ambition charter, where through conversation, distillation must take place, to render the non-doable to what is realistically possible. No goal can be achieved by a single leap forward. The goal will have to be broken- down into small bits of efforts, each of whom should be successfully achieved, to later join the dots of efforts, towards accomplishment of the goal. After determination of goals, it is time to break them down for achievement, in a measurement, of both time and the ultimate outcome.

Let’s now take these arguments to the corporate floor. Every unit of the organization has to have written down measurable goals for achievement within a predefined timeframe. After clubbing the goals and objectives of all units, the organization has in place a business plan. This strategic business plan can then be reduced into annual budgets. Goals inherently must be inspirational. They must carry within itself unlimited supply of hope. Goals are essentially the outcome of specific vision and purpose of either the individual or the entity. Nature has blessed us all with thinking power; a persistent reminder of the big picture by our minds allows us to internalize these objectives of life, as part of our sub-conscious mind.

Life without a goal is like a rudderless ship on the ocean of living. It will merely get tossed by currents and waves that are never in our control.

It is only worthwhile to have goals achieved that go beyond respective lives. Gainful is the objective to determine where do we stand and where we could be!

All goals are intertwined. The moment you arrive at the successful achievement of ‘one goal, there is another goal waiting -- when you have arrived at something, that’s the point where you begin.

When Michael Heseltine wrote as a student in the mid-fifties, about the 90s decade, as being “10, downing street”, he was clear headed that his goal was to become PM of Britain (and he almost made it, but for the Iron Lady, Margaret Thatcher and the Helicopter deal) similarly as a lad, when Charles Dickens told, when he was steeped in abject poverty, to his father, that he would one day own the attractive on the hill house, called, “Glady’s hill”; he knew he would have to earn enough to be able to purchase that dream house. So, after amazing persistence, when he hit the Eldorado, with his publishers support; Dickens finally bought the house. The lesson learned is that the objective (goal) must be ‘clear’ and ‘measurable’.

Those, who form this desirable habit of writing their goals and objectives of life, known  fully well, that these are not written on stone with a chisel. Hence those must be re read and revived at regular intervals, for either alteration or may be a paradigm shift of either the goal itself or the relative strategy employed.

Goals are an elixir of life, they can also serve as directional for pursuit. He is wise who looks ahead. The most important aspect to bear in mind is first the determination of goals and then to develop steps and strategies that must be undertaken.

Most do not realize their goals, due to their own foggy mind, that doesn’t permit them to either define with clarity or they themselves suffer from lack of faith and belief, that the goals are achievable.

The possibility of achieving any goal without resistance will remain Utopian. The stumbling blocks, impediments and barriers will always be many during the quest of achievement of goals. Constancy is a primary ingredient for accomplishment of goals. Since the goal/ objective achievement is dynamic and active, it is essential to review it periodically, for the institution of new approach or for jettisoning some of the past methodologies. With changing priorities, the methods must change too.

“The man without a purpose is like a ship without a rudder- a waif, a nothing, a no man. Have a purpose in life and having it, throw such strength of mind and muscle into your work as God has given you. The will of labor will formulate the results. If the pursuit is regular, consistent and persistent, then every single hour, is an honor of calling.”

Personally, I have always found Leonardo Da Vinci words most inspirational for pursuit of an objective, “obstacles cannot crush me; Every obstacle yields to stern resolve; He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind.”

I am filled with fear, when not having a goal than when I am not able to achieve one. Life has to be a mission. A noble pursuit.